{"id":3133,"date":"2021-11-20T14:03:33","date_gmt":"2021-11-20T14:03:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/?p=3133"},"modified":"2021-11-20T14:03:51","modified_gmt":"2021-11-20T14:03:51","slug":"poznate-svoj-tien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/poznate-svoj-tien\/","title":{"rendered":"Pozn\u00e1te svoj tie\u0148?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201eV\u0161etko, \u010do \u010dlovek popiera, ho prenasleduje. To, \u010do pr\u00edjma, ho transformuje.\u201c C.G. Jung<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tiene s\u00fa tie \u010dasti osobnosti, ktor\u00e9 v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou nechceme vidie\u0165, ukazova\u0165, alebo c\u00edti\u0165 \u2013 na\u0161a temn\u00e1 strana, hovor\u00ed B\u00e1ra Jurkovi\u010dov\u00e1, ktor\u00e1 se zaober\u00e1 celostn\u00fdm kou\u010dingom, v ktorom spojuje pr\u00e1cu s mys\u013eou, du\u0161ou i telom a zameriava sa \u010dasto na pr\u00e1cu s potla\u010dovan\u00fdm hnevom alebo pocitmi viny. \u201eS\u00fa v\u0161ak na\u0161e, ned\u00e1 sa ni\u010d robi\u0165, m\u00e1me ich v\u0161etci. Kdo tvrd\u00ed, \u017ee nie, je obzvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 nebezpe\u010dn\u00fd,\u201c dod\u00e1va B\u00e1ra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vyh\u00e1\u0148anie Diabla nezaber\u00e1. Naopak, pod\u013ea Freuda nevyjadren\u00e9 em\u00f3cie neumieraj\u00fa. \u201eS\u00fa pochovan\u00e9 za \u017eiva, aby se raz zjavily v ohavnej\u0161\u00edch podob\u00e1ch.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Prijatie vlastn\u00fdch tie\u0148ov n\u00e1m tak d\u00e1 energiu, ktor\u00fa inak venujeme na ich potla\u010dovanie. Nie je mo\u017en\u00e9 da\u0165 v\u0161etk\u00fdm tie\u0148om vo\u013en\u00fd priechod, ale pokia\u013e im venujeme vedomie, zoslabn\u00fa a stan\u00fa se ovl\u00e1date\u013en\u00fdmi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co teda pom\u00e1ha? Najlep\u0161ie je s nimi nebojova\u0165 a nepopiera\u0165 ich, mysl\u00ed si B\u00e1ra. Ke\u010f ich za\u010dneme naopak h\u013eada\u0165 a s\u00facitne sa ich sna\u017ei\u0165 pochopi\u0165, zmen\u00ed sa na\u0161e vn\u00fatorn\u00e9 nastavenie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eS\u00facitne\u201c je azda najd\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161ie slovo v tomto tvrden\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zn\u00e1my psychol\u00f3g Radkin Honz\u00e1k hovor\u00ed, \u017ee \u010dlovek nie je racion\u00e1lny tvor, ktor\u00fd m\u00e1 em\u00f3cie; \u010dlovek je emo\u010dn\u00fd tvor, ktor\u00fd ob\u010das mysl\u00ed. My v\u0161ak dobre vieme, \u017ee dnes u\u017e nie sme iba na\u0161e em\u00f3cie. M\u00e1me tie\u017e vypestovan\u00fa vn\u00fatorn\u00fa silu a t\u00e1 n\u00e1s chr\u00e1ni. Je v\u0161ak d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 si najsk\u00f4r v\u0161imn\u00fa\u0165, na \u010do vlastne reagujeme, kedy a pre\u010do, aby sme mohli pochopi\u0165 sam\u00fdch seba a dok\u00e1zali so sebou a svojimi tie\u0148mi zach\u00e1za\u0165 s v\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00edm porozumen\u00edm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reakt\u00edvna pe\u0165ka: strach, \u017eiarlivos\u0165, hnev, stud a vina<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak\u00fd je v\u00e1\u0161 tie\u0148? Ak\u00e9 deck\u00e9 reakcie se sp\u00fa\u0161\u0165aj\u00fa vo v\u00e1s? Existuje nie\u010do, \u010do na sebe nen\u00e1vid\u00edte? \u010coho sa boj\u00edte a\u017e tak, \u017ee to \u00faplne odmietate rie\u0161i\u0165? Nie je to \u013eahk\u00e9, pozrie\u0165 sa, kde sme svoje tiene akt\u00edvne tvorili. Prizna\u0165 si, \u017ee sme niekomu ubl\u00ed\u017eili, nie\u010do nezvl\u00e1dli. Patr\u00ed sem v\u0161etka agresivita, pas\u00edvna agresia (tedy \u00fatek od rie\u0161enia probl\u00e9mu pasivitou a ml\u010dan\u00edm), manipul\u00e1cia, kontrola, \u017eiarlivos\u0165, majetn\u00edctvo, nedovolen\u00e9 branie si (nielen vec\u00ed, ale i citov) \u2013 a z toho v\u0161etk\u00e9ho plyn\u00faci pocity viny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pocit viny, alebo inak povedan\u00e9, ten pocit, ke\u010f sa nem\u00e1me radi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co to znamen\u00e1, ma\u0165 sa rada? Op\u00fdtala som sa raz kamar\u00e1ta Petra. \u201eTo znamen\u00e1, \u017ee rob\u00ed\u0161 veci, ktor\u00e9 ti robia dobre a potom ich ne\u013eutuje\u0161,\u201c odvetil. \u201eTeda nie zap\u00e1li\u0165 si, alebo si da\u0165 \u010dokol\u00e1du, \u010do ti rob\u00ed dobre na chv\u00ed\u013eu, no potom to \u013eutova\u0165 a c\u00edti\u0165 za to vinu,\u201c doplnil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Z\u00e1vislosti \u010dasto sprev\u00e1dza pocit viny. Ak toti\u017e nie\u010do chceme, ba a\u017e potrebujeme, potenci\u00e1lny nedostatok toho, sa st\u00e1va hrozbou, \u017ee o to pr\u00eddeme. Odd\u00e1van\u00edm sa z\u00e1vislostiam a za nimi sa \u0165ahaj\u00faci pocit previnenia sa vo\u010di sebe, si teda p\u00f4sob\u00edme sebede\u0161trukciu, mysl\u00ed si B\u00e1ra Jurkovi\u010dov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do tie\u0148ovej party sa prid\u00e1va aj \u0161peci\u00e1lna skupinka tie\u0148ov rodi\u010dovstva. \u201eVedomie prevahy nad t\u00fdmi mal\u00fdmi tvormi n\u00e1s \u010dasto strhne k nepredlo\u017een\u00fdm reakci\u00e1m a \u010dinom,\u201c hovor\u00ed B\u00e1ra. \u201eToto je kateg\u00f3ria tie\u0148ov, ktor\u00e9 sme schopn\u00ed niekedy dokonca i h\u00e1ji\u0165. Pochopite\u013ene nie s\u00fa takto pregnantne pomenovan\u00e9 a s\u00fa schovan\u00e9 za \u010diny, ku ktor\u00fdm sme nejak do\u0161li. V\u00e4\u010d\u0161ina sa schov\u00e1 za vetu: \u201eJa m\u00e1m predsa pravdu, tak\u017ee\u2026\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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H\u013eadanie vinn\u00edka<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u013eada\u0165 pr\u00ed\u010diny tie\u0148ov\u00e9ho chovania, alebo ako sa na n\u00e1s podp\u00edsali ostatn\u00ed, s\u00fa pod\u013ea B\u00e1ry tiene, ktor\u00e9 sa prj\u00edmaj\u00fa a h\u013eadaj\u00fa asi najlep\u0161ie. \u201eNeexistuje \u010dlovek, ktor\u00e9mu by nebylo ubl\u00ed\u017een\u00e9. Ako hovor\u00ed v\u00fdsti\u017en\u00fd vtip, psychoterapeuta potrebuje ka\u017ed\u00fd, kto p\u0159e\u017eil detstvo. Pre \u00fajmu nemus\u00edme chodi\u0165 \u010faleko. Niekedy si to rodi\u010dia ani neuvedomovali, niekedy do n\u00e1s l\u00e1dovali vlastn\u00e9 projekcie, niekedy vyslovene ubli\u017eovali\u2026 V dospelosti sa to nijak z\u00e1sadne nemen\u00ed, \u017eivot sa s nami ob\u010das nep\u00e1ra. Patria sem v\u0161etky destrukt\u00edvne vzorce z rod\u00edn: mindr\u00e1ky (komplex menejcennosti, celkov\u00fd pocit nedostato\u010dnosti, hlbok\u00e1 pochybnos\u0165 a neistota o sebe samom), sebanen\u00e1vis\u0165, sebapodce\u0148ovanie, stud za to, k\u00fdm sme. Patr\u00ed sem aj pocit obete, teda napr\u00edklad \u017ee za v\u0161etko zl\u00e9, \u010do sa n\u00e1m v \u017eivote stalo, m\u00f4\u017eou t\u00ed druh\u00ed,\u201d menuje B\u00e1ra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ur\u010denie \u201evinn\u00edka\u201d n\u00e1\u0161ho chov\u00e1nia z podvedom\u00fdch odkukan\u00fdch vzorcov nie je samozrejmos\u0165ou, preto\u017eo obn\u00e1\u0161a d\u00f4kladn\u00e9 sebaspozn\u00e1v\u00e1nie a seba-pozorov\u00e1nie a v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou to b\u00fdva dlhoro\u010dn\u00fd proces. Odhalen\u00edm kore\u0148ov na\u0161ich de\u0161trukt\u00edvnych vzorcov v\u0161ak n\u00e1\u0161 p\u0159\u00edbeh samozrejme nekon\u010d\u00ed. M\u00f4\u017eeme se na tomto mieste \u013eahko zasekn\u00fa\u0165 a spadn\u00fa\u0165 do role obete, alebo zosta\u0165 v dlouhotrvaj\u00facom pocite, \u017ee \u201eto tak bohu\u017eia\u013e m\u00e1me\u201d a \u017ee sa s t\u00edm \u201eni\u010d ned\u00e1 robi\u0165\u201d. A tak sa \u010dasto m\u00f4\u017ee sta\u0165, \u017ee napr\u00edklad kon\u010d\u00edme vo vz\u0165ahoch, ktor\u00e9 nejak nefunguj\u00fa, aj keby sme chceli, aby to \u0161lo a nevieme ako to zmeni\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kr\u00edza ako dar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dobrou spr\u00e1vou je, \u017ee v\u0161etko je mo\u017en\u00e9 uvo\u013eni\u0165, odblokova\u0165, otvori\u0165. \u201ePravdepodobne nie do \u00fapln\u00e9ho odstr\u00e1nenia tr\u00e1um. Dosa\u017eite\u013en\u00fdm cie\u013eom je to, aby n\u00e1s u\u017e tieto t\u00e9my neovl\u00e1dali, neohrozovali, aby se zn\u00ed\u017eila ich intenzita. Preto, aby sa dali bloky uvolni\u0165, je v\u0161ak prvn\u00edm krokom pozna\u0165 ich presn\u00fd zdroj. Z chaosu, ktor\u00fd je v n\u00e1s vytvori\u0165 preh\u013eadnej\u0161iu \u0161trukt\u00faru, pomenova\u0165 zranenia a ich pr\u00ed\u010diny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

U\u017e vo chv\u00edli, ke\u010f zist\u00edte, \u010do presne sa vo v\u00e1s deje, prich\u00e1dza \u00fa\u013eava. A z\u00e1rove\u0148 n\u00e1dej, preto\u017ee viete presnej\u0161ie, na \u010dom \u010falej pracova\u0165. U\u017e to nie je bezbreh\u00e9 t\u00e1panie, ale jasne vymedzen\u00e1 \u00faloha. Ale v\u017edy plat\u00ed, \u017ee je to beh na dlh\u0161iu tra\u0165, na ktorej konci v\u0161ak \u010dak\u00e1 ve\u013ek\u00e1 odmena,\u201c s\u013eubuje B\u00e1ra, ktor\u00e1 na svojich sedeniach pom\u00e1ha rozkr\u00fdva\u0165 zranenia a osobn\u00e9 t\u00e9my ulo\u017een\u00e9 hlboko v nevedom\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201ePokia\u013e tiene neobjav\u00edme, ovl\u00e1daj\u00fa n\u00e1s nevedome, a to je ich sila,\u201c pripom\u00edna. \u201eKe\u010f nevieme prav\u00fd d\u00f4vod n\u00e1\u0161ho opakovan\u00e9ho rozhodovania sa, ktor\u00e9 n\u00e1sledne \u013eutujeme, sme vo vleku. Nie\u010do n\u00e1s \u0165ah\u00e1, ovplyv\u0148uje na\u0161e vz\u0165ahy a ka\u017edodenn\u00e9 reakcie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jedinou cestou von je prost\u00e1 v\u0161\u00edmavos\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rev\u00edzia ka\u017edodenn\u00fdch rozhodnut\u00ed, sledovanie my\u0161lienok a h\u013eadanie vlastnej autenticity. A to je nikdy sa nekon\u010diaca pr\u00e1ca. \u010casto svoje vlastn\u00e9 tiene n\u00e1jdeme najsk\u00f4r u druh\u00fdch. Tak\u017ee pokia\u013e v\u00e1s niekto \u0161tve nejak\u00fdm svoj\u00edm tie\u0148om, spozornejte! Asi sa to t\u00fdka priamo v\u00e1s\u2026\u201d pob\u00e1da k v\u0161\u00edmavosti B\u00e1ra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00ed\u0165azstvo nad tie\u0148om je akt, kedy prest\u00e1vame by\u0165 obe\u0165ou a berieme si nasp\u00e4\u0165 zodpovednos\u0165 za svoj \u017eivot a svoje vz\u0165ahy. Je to ne\u013eahk\u00fd proces, \u00e1no. Ale je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 sa pochv\u00e1li\u0165, nech u\u017e ste kdeko\u013evek v tomto procese. Cesta sebaspozn\u00e1vania a objavovania svojoch tie\u0148ov patr\u00ed k \u017eivotu presne tak isto ako objavovanie v\u0161etk\u00fdch t\u00fdch \u201e\u017eiariv\u00fdch\u201c str\u00e1nok na\u0161ej osobnosti, napr\u00edklad l\u00e1skavosti, \u010di pracovitosti. V\u0161etko je proces, v\u0161etko je v pohybe a ka\u017edou min\u00fatou sa m\u00f4\u017ee v\u00e1\u0161 cel\u00fd poh\u013ead na seba sam\u00fdch a na svet zmeni\u0165. Predstavujem si, \u017ee u\u017e len \u010d\u00edtan\u00edm tohto \u010dl\u00e1nku prip\u00fa\u0161\u0165ate existenciu svojich tie\u0148ov\u00fdch str\u00e1nok, a teda ste na ceste sta\u0165 sa svojou lep\u0161ou verziou. Tak hlavu hore…Ka\u017ed\u00e1 noc sa do\u010dk\u00e1 svetla na svitan\u00ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201eV\u0161etko, \u010do \u010dlovek popiera, ho prenasleduje. To, \u010do pr\u00edjma, ho transformuje.\u201c C.G. Jung Tiene s\u00fa tie \u010dasti osobnosti, ktor\u00e9 v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou nechceme vidie\u0165, ukazova\u0165, alebo c\u00edti\u0165 \u2013 na\u0161a temn\u00e1 strana, hovor\u00ed B\u00e1ra Jurkovi\u010dov\u00e1, ktor\u00e1 se zaober\u00e1 celostn\u00fdm kou\u010dingom, v ktorom spojuje pr\u00e1cu s mys\u013eou, du\u0161ou i telom a zameriava sa \u010dasto na pr\u00e1cu s potla\u010dovan\u00fdm hnevom…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3134,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[42,43,45],"tags":[30,32,31,33,29],"class_list":["post-3133","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychologia","category-seberozvoj","category-vztahy","tag-identita","tag-psychologia","tag-psychosomatika","tag-seberozvoj","tag-vztahy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3133","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3133"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3133\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3143,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3133\/revisions\/3143"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3134"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3133"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3133"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3133"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}