{"id":3266,"date":"2021-11-20T14:29:15","date_gmt":"2021-11-20T14:29:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/?p=3266"},"modified":"2021-11-20T14:29:30","modified_gmt":"2021-11-20T14:29:30","slug":"radikalni-uprimnost-komu-lzete-vy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/radikalni-uprimnost-komu-lzete-vy\/","title":{"rendered":"Radik\u00e1ln\u00ed \u00fap\u0159\u00edmnost"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201eLhan\u00ed ve form\u011b polopravd, ml\u017een\u00ed, p\u0159edst\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed a hlavn\u011b zatajov\u00e1n\u00ed, se stalo sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed na\u0161\u00ed kultury,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 psycholog a terapeut Sebastian James. Na ne\u00fap\u0159\u00edmnost u\u017e jsme si zvykli natolik, \u017ee se jsme si za\u010dali myslet, \u017ee to jinak ani nejde.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Podle Sebastiana jsme lhan\u00ed p\u0159ijali jako normu v ka\u017edoden\u00ed komunikaci. Nemysl\u00edme to v\u017edycky \u0161patn\u011b. D\u016fvod\u016f je cel\u00e1 \u0159ada a n\u00e1\u0161 kreativn\u00ed mozeg si ne\u00fap\u0159\u00edmnost v\u017edycky dok\u00e1\u017ee n\u011bjak obh\u00e1jit. Chceme si \u017eivot uleh\u010dit, nechceme zra\u0148ovat city ostatn\u00edch a chceme p\u0159edch\u00e1zet konflikt\u016fm. Zapom\u00edn\u00e1me ale, \u017ee n\u00e1s toto jedn\u00e1n\u00ed ale tak\u00e9 n\u011bco stoj\u00ed. A cena je docela vysok\u00e1. Nav\u00edc p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed velmi pl\u00ed\u017eiv\u011b a a\u017e po n\u011bjak\u00e9m \u010dase. Na za\u010d\u00e1tku si \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me, \u017ee jedna mala milosrdn\u00e1 le\u017e a jeden fale\u0161n\u00fd \u00fasm\u011bv n\u00e1s nic nestoj\u00ed. Jen\u017ee co kdy\u017e takhle budeme jednat roky? V pr\u00e1ci, s kamar\u00e1dy, s rodi\u010di, s d\u011btmi, v partnerstv\u00ed, v man\u017eelstv\u00ed. V\u011bt\u0161inou to dopad\u00e1 tak, \u017ee s lidmi, kter\u00e9 jsme d\u0159\u00edv m\u011bli r\u00e1di, nebo dokonce milovali, si najednou nem\u00e1me co \u0159\u00edct. Sice po\u0159\u00e1d pln\u00edme n\u00e1\u0161 p\u016fvodn\u011b vzn\u011b\u0161en\u00fd z\u00e1m\u011br, vyhnout se konflikt\u016fm, ale bohu\u017eel spolu s konflikty, se n\u00e1m postupn\u011b vytratila ze vztahu i \u017eivost a z\u00e1jem. Lhan\u00ed, p\u0159edst\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed a zatajov\u00e1n\u00ed n\u00e1s nav\u00edc stoj\u00ed spoustu energie a je v\u00fdrazn\u00fdm zdrojem stresu. V dlouhodob\u00e9m horizontu n\u00e1s stoj\u00ed na\u0161i vnit\u0159n\u00ed svobodu a integritu. Bez \u00fap\u0159\u00edmnosti a autenticity nem\u016f\u017ee vzniknout d\u016fv\u011bra. A bez d\u016fv\u011bry nem\u016f\u017ee vzniknout p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed ani pospolitost. \u201eNau\u010dme se spolu otev\u0159en\u011b mluvit,\u201c vyz\u00fdv\u00e1 Sebastian a nab\u00edz\u00ed lidem na sv\u00fdch kurzech a v kruz\u00edch \u00fap\u0159\u00edmnosti p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost a n\u00e1vod, jak se znova dostat k pravdiv\u00e9 komunikaci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pro\u010d si l\u017eeme?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Neup\u0159\u00edmn\u00ed jsme ob\u010das v\u0161ichni, vych\u00e1z\u00ed to z na\u0161\u00ed v\u00fdchovy, kultury a \u010d\u00e1ste\u010dn\u011b mo\u017en\u00e1 i z na\u0161\u00ed DNA. Lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed na kurzy chod\u00ed, si ale postupem \u010dasu uv\u011bdomili, \u017ee toho lhan\u00ed a neup\u0159\u00edmnosti maj\u00ed v \u017eivot\u011b a\u017e p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho a \u017ee jim to u\u017e \u017eivot neusnad\u0148uje, ale naopak hodn\u011b komplikuje. Co za\u010dalo jednou milosrdnou l\u017e\u00ed nebo snahou n\u011bkoho citov\u011b nezranit, se velmi nen\u00e1padn\u011b a pl\u00ed\u017eiv\u011b rozto\u010d\u00ed v koloto\u010d l\u017e\u00ed, kter\u00fd nejde zastavit. Takov\u00fd \u017eivot za\u010dne b\u00fdt po n\u011bkolika letech velmi stresuj\u00edc\u00ed a vy\u010derp\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed a odraz\u00ed se to na mezilidsk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch. Ty za\u010dnou b\u00fdt v\u00edce povrchn\u00ed a vytrat\u00ed se z nich bl\u00edzkost, d\u016fv\u011bra i radost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Co to znamen\u00e1 pro tebe, b\u00fdt \u00fap\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd? Je n\u011bjak\u00fd rozd\u00edl mezi t\u00edm b\u00fdt \u00fap\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd \u201eradik\u00e1ln\u011b\u201c a b\u00fdt jenom \u201e\u00fap\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd\u201c?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd pro m\u011b znamen\u00e1 mluvit otev\u0159en\u011b a pravdiv\u011b o tom, co d\u011bl\u00e1m, co pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1m, co si mysl\u00edm a hlavn\u011b o tom, co p\u0159i tom c\u00edt\u00edm. Jestli c\u00edt\u00edm smutek, radost, na\u0161tv\u00e1n\u00ed, stud nebo strach. V\u011bt\u0161ina lid\u00ed o sv\u00fdch emoc\u00edch nemluv\u00ed a mnoz\u00ed to ani neum\u011bj\u00ed. A tak se st\u00e1v\u00e1, \u017ee je r\u016fzn\u011b skr\u00fdvaj\u00ed, potla\u010duj\u00ed nebo p\u0159edst\u00edraj\u00ed, \u017ee se c\u00edt\u00ed vesele, kdy\u017e se p\u0159itom ve skute\u010dnosti n\u011b\u010d\u00edm tr\u00e1p\u00ed. To je z dlouhodob\u00e9ho hlediska z t\u011blesn\u00e9ho i du\u0161evn\u00edho hlediska velice nezdrav\u00e9, vede to k depres\u00edm a \u00fazkostem. Radik\u00e1ln\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmnost pro m\u011b znamen\u00e1, \u017ee o sob\u011b sd\u011bl\u00edm opravdu v\u0161echno, v\u010detn\u011b t\u011bch nejv\u00edc zapov\u011bzen\u00fdch t\u00e9mat, o kter\u00fdch se v\u011bt\u0161inou nemluv\u00ed, co\u017e b\u00fdvaj\u00ed nej\u010dast\u011bji finance, sex, zdrav\u00ed a tabuizovan\u00e9 emoce jako hn\u011bv, stud \u010di strach. Jin\u00fdmi slovy to znamen\u00e1, \u017ee jsem zcela transparentn\u00ed. Rozhodn\u011b netvrd\u00edm, \u017ee m\u00e1me b\u00fdt v\u0161ichni, po\u0159\u00e1d, v ka\u017ed\u00e9 situaci a ke v\u0161em radik\u00e1ln\u011b up\u0159\u00edmn\u00ed. Je ale dobr\u00e9 to um\u011bt a hlavn\u011b m\u00edt v \u017eivot\u011b lidi, se kter\u00fdmi si to m\u016f\u017eu dovolit. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 \u017eivot n\u011bkdy p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed situace, kdy je to dokonce nezbytn\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jakou zm\u011bnu jsi spozoroval ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b, odkdy se zna\u017e\u00ed\u0161 \u017e\u00edt v radik\u00e1ln\u00ed \u00fap\u0159\u00edmnosti?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mezi nej\u010dast\u011bj\u0161\u00ed m\u00fdty o radik\u00e1ln\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmnosti pat\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee radik\u00e1ln\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmnost znamen\u00e1 bezb\u0159ehou sobeckost a nemor\u00e1ln\u00ed jedn\u00e1n\u00ed. Opak je pravdou. Radik\u00e1ln\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmnost m\u00e1 sv\u00e1 pravidla. Za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 autentick\u00fdm vyjad\u0159ov\u00e1n\u00edm pocit\u016f, pot\u0159eb a p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed. Pokra\u010duje otev\u0159en\u00fdm naslouch\u00e1n\u00edm druh\u00fdm. Je o otev\u0159en\u00e9m postoji ke sv\u011btu, spolupr\u00e1ci a schopnosti v\u00e9st dialog.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nepovede se to poka\u017ed\u00e9. Nen\u00ed to v\u017edycky snadn\u00e9. Nen\u00ed to v\u017edycky p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9. Pokud ov\u0161em odhod\u00edme fale\u0161n\u00e9 masky a v autenticit\u011b vytrv\u00e1me, pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b objev\u00edme, \u017ee d\u00edky tomu pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1me v\u00edce svobody i radosti a hlavn\u011b m\u00e1me napln\u011bn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed mezilidsk\u00e9 vztahy. Postupem \u010dasu mo\u017en\u00e1 zjist\u00edme, \u017ee takov\u00fd zp\u016fsob \u017eivota je nejen zdrav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a podstatn\u011b p\u0159\u00edjemn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, ale i jednodu\u0161\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u011bt\u0161\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmnost se jednozna\u010dn\u011b projevuje na kvalit\u011b mezilidsk\u00fdch vztah\u016f. D\u00edky otev\u0159en\u00e9mu sd\u00edlen\u00ed pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b zjist\u00edme, \u017ee toho v\u0161ichni m\u00e1me spolu mnohem v\u00edce spole\u010dn\u00e9ho, ne\u017e rozd\u00edln\u00e9ho, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd z n\u00e1s m\u00e1 ob\u010das n\u011bjak\u00e9 tr\u00e1pen\u00ed. To n\u00e1m pom\u00e1h\u00e1 se jeden o druh\u00e9ho v\u00edce zaj\u00edmat, t\u00e1hnout za jeden provaz a v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b n\u011bjak\u00e9ho konfliktu, kter\u00fd je nevyhnutelnou sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed lidsk\u00e9ho sou\u017eit\u00ed, si rychleji odpustit \u010di si dokonce porozum\u011bt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vysv\u011btl\u00ed\u0161, pros\u00edm, jak funguje psychoterapeutick\u00e1 metoda gestalt a pro\u010d ji pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1\u0161?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tento psychoterapeutick\u00fd p\u0159\u00edstup vede lidi k tomu, aby si aktivn\u011b uv\u011bdomovali, co se v okam\u017eiku \u201etady a te\u010f\u201c d\u011bje v jejich nitru. Aby t\u00edmto zp\u016fsobem v\u011bdom\u011b vn\u00edmali svoje emoce a t\u011blesn\u00e9 vjemy, jeliko\u017e pr\u00e1v\u011b ty jsou kl\u00ed\u010dem k tomu uv\u011bdomit si vlastn\u00ed pot\u0159eby a impulsem k tomu za\u010d\u00edt jednat jinak ne\u017e doposud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V Gestalt terapii se p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 nezab\u00fdv\u00e1me t\u00edm, pro\u010d n\u011bjak\u00e1 situace vznikla, ale sp\u00ed\u0161 t\u00edm, co je\u0161t\u011b pot\u0159ebujeme vyj\u00e1d\u0159it, abychom ji mohli uzav\u0159\u00edt. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 hodn\u011b sledujeme, jestli na\u0161e vn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed verb\u00e1ln\u00ed i neverb\u00e1ln\u00ed komunikace odpov\u00edd\u00e1 tomu, co c\u00edt\u00edme uvnit\u0159, nebo zda jen papou\u0161kujeme pr\u00e1zdn\u00e9 fr\u00e1ze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Sebastian James<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010cesk\u00fd psycholog, psychoterapeut a lektor. V \u017eivot\u011b, stejn\u011b jako ve sv\u00e9m povol\u00e1n\u00ed, pova\u017euje za nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmnost, schopnost si hr\u00e1t a ochotu si vz\u00e1jemn\u011b pom\u00e1hat. Krom\u011b \u010cesk\u00e9 republiky vedl kurzy tak\u00e9 v N\u011bmecku, \u0158ecku, Francii, Polsku a na Slovensku. Specializuje se na individu\u00e1ln\u00ed a p\u00e1rovou terapii.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zpravidla ka\u017ed\u00fd druh\u00fd \u010dtvrtek po\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1 otev\u0159en\u00fd Ve\u010der up\u0159\u00edmnosti, kde mohou lid\u00e9 experimentovat s t\u00edm, jak\u00e9 je to b\u00fdt radik\u00e1ln\u011b up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201eLhan\u00ed ve form\u011b polopravd, ml\u017een\u00ed, p\u0159edst\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed a hlavn\u011b zatajov\u00e1n\u00ed, se stalo sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed na\u0161\u00ed kultury,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 psycholog a terapeut Sebastian James. Na ne\u00fap\u0159\u00edmnost u\u017e jsme si zvykli natolik, \u017ee se jsme si za\u010dali myslet, \u017ee to jinak ani nejde. Podle Sebastiana jsme lhan\u00ed p\u0159ijali jako normu v ka\u017edoden\u00ed komunikaci. Nemysl\u00edme to v\u017edycky \u0161patn\u011b. D\u016fvod\u016f je cel\u00e1…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3267,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[50,42,43],"tags":[48,34,32,31,33,29],"class_list":["post-3266","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-interviews-2","category-psychologia","category-seberozvoj","tag-emocie","tag-praca-s-telom","tag-psychologia","tag-psychosomatika","tag-seberozvoj","tag-vztahy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3266","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3266"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3266\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3276,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3266\/revisions\/3276"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3267"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3266"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3266"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karma-klub.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3266"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}